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19-year-old fatally injured in SR76 crash


Thursday, December 25th, 2008
Issue 52, Volume 12.
Andrea Verdin
Staff Writer


Nineteen-year-old Sean Walker Jordan was fatally injured in an automobile collision on SR76 at 3:23 a.m. on Saturday, December 20.

According to Officer J. Jenkins of the California Highway Patrol, Walker was driving a 2002 Toyota Tacoma eastbound on SR76, approximately 1.5 miles east of South Mission Road, when he made an "unsafe turning movement," causing his truck to travel across the westbound lane onto the north side of the roadway.

Walker continued driving parallel to traffic (eastbound on the westbound side of the road) until he reached a steep embankment, at which time his truck vaulted upward and then into a southerly direction over the westbound traffic lane of SR76.

The truck then landed in the westbound traffic lane and came into contact with a 2003 Honda Accord carrying three women, ages 45, 54 and 63, whose identities authorities have not released.

As the pickup hit the road, Jordan was ejected onto the roadway surface, sustaining fatal head injuries. Jenkins said Jordan was not wearing a seatbelt at the time of the accident.

Jordan’s body came to rest on the road, while his pickup continued eastbound until it rolled over. The pickup ultimately landed roof to roof with the Honda.

Jenkins said the women in the Honda sustained minor injuries, including bruising and cuts to the face and pain to the upper torso.

Prior to the collision, witnesses said they observed Jordan "weaving side-to-side and traveling at speeds varying between 15 Advertisement
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and 45 mph."

An open container of alcohol was located inside the pickup and alcohol is being investigated as a factor in the collision.

While it is not known how Jordan came to be in possession of the alcohol, Sheriff’s Sergeant Ron McCracken said if the underage man was provided alcohol in someone’s home at a party, the person who provided the alcohol may be liable for the damages Jordan caused under the Social Host Ordinance, which makes any adult who furnishes a minor with alcohol liable for any injuries and property damage caused.

According to the ordinance, an adult providing alcohol can be fined $1,000 and ordered to perform community service. In certain cases, the adult may be sent to prison for six months to a year.

In addition, parents or guardians of minors provided with alcohol may also sue in a civil or criminal suit.

"People have to be more aware that serving alcohol to minors is a crime," said McCracken. "Some people don’t think that underage drinking is a concern. But these people are liable for any damages the minor causes and should be prosecuted by parents civilly and criminally."

Jordan was a graduate of Fallbrook High School, a student at Miramar College in San Diego and a Fire Explorer with an EMT certificate of completion.

There will be a funeral at Fallbrook United Methodist Church on December 26 at 11 a.m., with burial following at the Masonic Cemetery.


 

98 comments

Comment Profile ImageBarbara
Comment #1 | Friday, Dec 26, 2008 at 10:19 am
My prayers are with the family.
Comment Profile Imagekaren adams
Comment #2 | Friday, Dec 26, 2008 at 10:20 am
My daughter was one of many underaged drinkers w/Sean Jordan the night and morning before he was killed in his auto accident. She is 18 yrs old. Not legal drinking age, yet she gets alcohol in this community nearly every night! They were all drinking at some "Responsible" parent's home and that parent apparently condoned the underage drinking! That parent knew the kids were drunk and didn't take car keys or block the kids' vehicles in w/a car like so many mothers do. (You know who you are.) What a horrific life lesson for my daughter!
What a terrible experience for all the kids w/Sean just moments before he left in his truck! What guilt and anguish they should feel! What HORROR and TERROR and SHOCK Sean's own family must feel! I can't even imagine what his mother is going through! There are no words. No comfort for her. These kids, our kids, are not responsible adults. Parents need to have enough respect for other parents to do the right thing. Parents need to be responsible adults. Tell your kids: Underage drinking is not acceptable! Look for their fake IDs and cut them in half! Do not allow underage drinking at your parties and get togethers. I know my daughter won't ever forget Sean Jordan and I hope there are many more like her in our community.
Comment Profile ImageMichael Kapitanski
Comment #3 | Friday, Dec 26, 2008 at 12:00 pm
sean jordon was one great person and shall remain in the hearts of the family and friends forever
Comment Profile ImageEvelyn
Comment #4 | Friday, Dec 26, 2008 at 12:09 pm
What a tragedy. The parents who allowed this underage young man and all others at the party to drink and drive should be punished to the full extent of the law, we can only be thankful that no one else was killed as a result of the accident. What these parents did was criminal. They do not deserve to be parents. My heart goes out to Sean's family.
Comment Profile ImageSherry Balkan
Comment #5 | Friday, Dec 26, 2008 at 1:56 pm
I pray for this hurting family right now. I too am a parent of a 19 year old and a 17 year old and I am very frustrated with the lack of parent involvement when it comes to any age of drinking or suspicious activity. I feel sometimes that I am the only parent asking so many questions?? where are you going? who's house? who is supervising? what's the address? Help us all to be involved, even good kids make poor choices..
Comment Profile Imageruth
Comment #6 | Friday, Dec 26, 2008 at 2:16 pm
Today is a day to mourn the loss of Sean and celebrate his life. The guilt and blame will be with everyone involved forever; the "if onlys" will haunt them. Focus on Sean today ...and his parents and friends....
Then, yes, this community must address what led to this accident.
Comment Profile Imageannonymous
Comment #7 | Sunday, Dec 28, 2008 at 12:10 pm
I am an eighteen year old of the fallbrook community and i was friends with Sean Jordan and I am well aware who you daughter is, and for you to sit here and judge someone on there "parenting skills" is ridiculous. You are aware of your daughters drinking and partying habits and your saying someone else needs work. Well why don't you do some work on yourself and start working on your own parenting skills.Not to mention it is of my understanding that your daughter was one of the last lucky people to see Sean and she is envied by many. But I don't know what kind of blame she is putting on the mother of the young man that had people over but she was not condoning it or giving them alcohol. Like you said your daughter gets alcohol every night and being a young adult in fallbrook I know it is not hard. But think about the pain that the family is feeling and only minutes before Sean left the young mans mother asked him if he was staying and he had a bed made, and told her he was staying. So you need to get your facts strait, stop lashing out at someone who is also in an immense amount of pain because of this and comfort your daughter. And leave your hateful thoughts to yourself.
Comment Profile ImageKM
Comment #8 | Sunday, Dec 28, 2008 at 12:10 pm
I will tell you what led to it... irresponsibility and gross negligence. I hope the CHP and SDSO do their jobs and pursue those adults who provided the alcohol.
Comment Profile Imagesad
Comment #9 | Sunday, Dec 28, 2008 at 12:11 pm
Such a preventable death. Everyone knows that the crowd he hung out with is one of the hardest drinking, partying crowds from the high school. From their pimp and hoe parties, to their beer pong parties, they ALWAYS have access to alcohol/drugs. Their hard drinking scared me so much that I forbid my high school student from associating with any of them. Don't get me wrong, these are nice kids, they just think it is fun to get drunk. The parents of all these kids need to wise up and start monitoring your kids better. Not just your 18 year old daughters, but their younger sibling (who parties harder than the older one)......

Read your child's myspace and you will see where every drunken party is being held and the pictures of passed out kids from the day after. You will be shocked to see the "good" kids that have grown up in this town, stoned or drunk off their butts. There are a lot of parents supplying your kids with alcohol because they want to be considered the “cool” parent. The number of kids who go to the high school football games drunk would astound you. The high school security staff should do a Breathalyzer at the gate and it would keep half of the junior high kids out of the game. Drive over to the courts in River Glen some night at 3am. You will be shocked how many drunk kids you will find.

As parents, we need to stop ignoring the warning signs and stop our kids from having so much unsupervised time with their friends. Underage drinking is a sad right of passage for kids, the unfortunate part is that the parents have stopped being strict and stopped parenting and want too badly to be their child's buddy. This was a COMPLETELY preventable death and we all need to help each other.

I am keeping his family in my prayers and every other family of that group of kids that are so flippin drunk/stoned every single weekend. I believe this is the forum to talk about this. I see that his obituary is also in the paper. That is the proper place to give our respects to the family. This forum is to help each other as parents and try to prevent this from happening again to someone else's child.
Comment Profile ImageKevin
Comment #10 | Sunday, Dec 28, 2008 at 12:11 pm
This is just rotten; Sean was a great guy. He will definitely be missed.
Comment Profile Imagedon't quite understand...
Comment #11 | Sunday, Dec 28, 2008 at 12:11 pm
if you know your 18-yr old daughter is going to go out drinking... why aren't you keeping her home?
Parents need to take responsibility for their children's actions, and stop blaming others.
My heart hurts for this loss of life... 19 is too young to die.
Comment Profile ImageRIP SEAN
Comment #12 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 10:18 am
if i recall right, since sean's death your daughter has already gone out and had much access to alcohol. instead of preaching to many of the responsible parents who do take charge, and take care of their kids, you should start being more involved in your daughters life. Sean was and is more loved than any young man i know. He has so many great achievements, it is a shame that his life had to be taken so soon. You can not just blame the parents, these kids have access to alcohol all around them. They are 18, 19, and 20 years old, of course some of their friends are 21 and can buy alcohol. stop trying to blame others, and keep her in if you cannot control her partying. People need to stop lying to themselves when their kids are out, they know what is going on. sean was beyond amazing, and has taught me so much about life. i will never forget him for a single day. i love you sean
Comment Profile ImageBetty J.
Comment #13 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 10:19 am
Ms. Adams, you state:"My daughter was one of many underaged drinkers w/Sean Jordan the night and morning before he was killed in his auto accident. She is 18 yrs old. Not legal drinking age, yet she gets alcohol in this community nearly every night! They were all drinking at some "Responsible" parent's home and that parent apparently condoned the underage drinking!" If your daughter is getting alcohol every night, and was one of the underaged drinkers with Sean, may I suggest you get her to rehab. Drinking every night? And you're judging some other parents? Pull the log out my dear.

My prayers go to Sean's mom and step dad, as well as Sean's dad. From what I've heard he was a great kid with many, many friends.
Comment Profile ImageDM
Comment #14 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 10:20 am
How can you expect the kids to be responsible when the adults who supplied the alcohol can't be. I agree with KM. Do these irresponsible people understand that Sean could have taken the lives of their own family members. Do you think this will make a lasting impression on these kids lives? They should show their respect to Sean and his family by not drinking. Lets see how many do that.
Comment Profile ImageFire Buddy
Comment #15 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 10:20 am
The loss of Sean has hit our explorer post the hardest. We were Sean's brothers for 3 years. We are not out for blood. Lets not make Sean's memorial a fight against who is the best parent and who isn't. We lost a brother and you lost a friend. That is what we should focus on, not whose fault it is.
WHAT WOULD SEAN DO?
Comment Profile Imageannonymous
Comment #16 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 10:20 am
I was 1 of "FEW" people that saw sean the night before he left us.. and your daughter was not 1 of them.. she was passed out drunk and on something else probly.. for you to blame someone elses "parenting skills" you should judge your own.. if you know your underage daughter is getting drunk every night.. isnt that a problem in itself..?

I love you sean.. and I know what you would do


R.I.P
Sean "chaps" Jordan
Comment Profile Imageannonymous
Comment #17 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 10:20 am
I feel for all involved and personally agree with Karen Adams and Sad as my 14 year old daughter left at a responsible parents house in the River Glen area and ended up drunk.
Comment Profile Image2FireBuddy
Comment #18 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 10:49 am
Buddy, you need to wise up. Yes, Sean will be missed, but now is when we start talking about prevention for the next situation like this. Have you ever heard the saying "an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure"? If you are in the fire service, you know how effective prevention can be. Now is the time that we do start talking about this problem of parents supplying alcohol to underage kids. Sticking our heads in the sand will not prevent this from happening again. It is what caused this to happen in the first place.
Comment Profile ImageRuth
Comment #19 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 12:33 pm
Oh, stop the blaming. Sean died. He died. The lashing out is not something he would have wanted, certainly not attacking people he loved. Mistakes in judgment were made here by many people, teenagers and adults. Mourn him. Evaluate only yousrself and make some changes. Let him RIP.
Comment Profile Image...
Comment #20 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 2:56 pm
I am glad one parent had the courage to say something about these problems. Good for you for not letting the crowd silence you.
Comment Profile Imagea friend
Comment #21 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 4:40 pm
This is in response to whoever “sad” is. Yes it was a preventable death and a tragedy that this had to happen to Sean and his family but you could never be more wrong in your assumptions. You claim that, “Everyone knows that the crowd he hung out with is one of the hardest drinking, partying crowds from the high school. From their pimp and hoe parties, to their beer pong parties, and they ALWAYS have access to alcohol/drugs.” These claims are outright slander and hold no truth. Also, I would like to ask what kind of person would speak this way of such a loving, caring, and respectful individual after their tragic death. Sean devoted his life to helping others and I believe what you said about him is deformation of character. Every claim you make holds no ground and could never be proven. Sean Walker Jordan was an average 19-year-old college student that enjoyed being with his friends and occasionally having a drink. This does not make him as the alcoholic drug user you portray him to be. After attacking Sean and his friends you go on to say that you prohibited your children to hang out with them and I would like to tell you that your child lost a great opportunity to meet Sean.
In response to Karen Adams. Everyone in the community is well aware whom your daughter is and her antics and that is for your family to deal with. Also I would like to bring to your attention that your daughter is in great deal why Sean left that house where a comfortable bed was there for him. I am not trying to blame her at all because it was Sean who made that decision that night and I know he would not want anyone blamed for this. Furthermore, there has been so much focus on underage drinking and I would like to point out that this is irrelevant. If Sean was 21 years of age this would still hurt everyone just as bad, it would still be horrific, and he would still be a great loss to everyone. On top of this there is much talk of parents responsibility, parents giving teens alcohol, and flat out blame. That night no parents were giving out alcohol. (Honestly these people ranged from age 18 to 20 and you don’t think they know a friend that is 21) The only true blame that can truly be given is to Sean for making the decision to leave after people told him not to and already having a place to stay.
All in all I want people to stop pointing fingers and remember Sean Walker Jordan for the loving individual he was, although everyone should learn from his example and I believe people have. I see all these comments on how people need to take control of their children but quite frankly they are all adults and need to realize for themselves. I have seen first hand how an entire communities mind set has changed because of this and I don’t believe anything more than this could ever be done to discourage teens from driving under the influence. No talk could ever be as effective as this tragedy was. Sean had a great loving mother and family and the loss they faced is truly unbearable and this slander could only be making it harder for them. From this I want people to stop point fingers, to learn from this experience, remember Sean in loving memory, and be comforting to his friends and family.
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Comment Profile Imagea friend
Comment #22 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 4:41 pm
It was supposed to be defamation of character.

R.I.P. Sean Walker Jordan
Comment Profile ImageJewmorms
Comment #23 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 4:41 pm
hmm old enough to die for your country old enough to drink?
Comment Profile ImageRuth
Comment #24 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 6:01 pm
Wow, a friend, you pretend to care and then attack ONE of the kids involved? You are the one pointing the finger and you pointed it directly at one kid. Heartless. Shame on you. Don't balme the kid for her mother. Is what you are doing helpful to anyone or are you the person who had the party? What hypocrisy --you single out one kid and tell others to stop pointing fingers? I am sure that all of the young adults connected to this incident or conncted to Sean have regrets. Help them;don't attack them.
Comment Profile Imagesad
Comment #25 | Monday, Dec 29, 2008 at 6:47 pm
In response to "a friend." I did not say Sean was at any of the pimp and hoe parties, or the beer pong parties. I said the CROWD he hangs out with is one of the hardest drinking/stoner crowds at the high school and they do that. As for my child missing out on knowing him? I stand by my statement that I would not want my child around that crowd, and someone who chooses underage drinking and driving. If that makes my child miss out on meeting someone who is otherwise a great person, that truly does make me sad.

Do you know how many of the kids in this town have ended up in emergency with alcohol poisoning? Its more than a few. We can chose as parents to put our heads in the sand, or we can chose to take action. I do not want to see this happening to anyone else's child. Sean may have been a remarkable person, but as a Fire Explorers and he knew better than to drink and drive. Unfortunately, alcohol clouds judgment and bad decisions are a result. Like I said, this was a tragic, but preventable death. A loss of life and a loss of what would have been a fine Paramedic/Firefighter.

I wrote this because I am finally having the courage to say something to the parents of these kids. So many times, I have wanted to stop them in the grocery store and say, "Hey, go on myspace and view the pics of your child drunk and stoned". Many of these kids are drunk every night/weekend, as it is common place with that crowd. One can only assume that a kid getting away with that type of behavior every night, does so with the COMPLETE knowledge of their parent.

It disgusts me that you want to turn Sean's death into a slander/defamation issue. He would be disappointed that you would not use his death to teach kids to do something better with their lives. Honor him for the Paramedic/Firefighter, and the good person he was supposed to become and have his death make a difference in this community. That is what he would want. He would want the tragic truth in his death to come out and have it make a difference in someone else's life. Let's all do that for him. We need to find a forum where we can honestly warn these parents about the poor decisions their kids are making. We see it, the kids at the high school see it happening, yet no one says anything for fear of offending people. Please help us find a way to do this.

I encourage you to go to Sean's obituary and write a heartfelt letter of love and condolence to his family.
Comment Profile Imageidiots
Comment #26 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 8:55 am
The new national passtime of Fallbrook: Speculation of what the dead may or may not want. The administrator of this website ought to shut you idiots up and delete all this BS!
Comment Profile ImageME
Comment #27 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 8:55 am
I AM SO SAD THAT SEAN HAD TO GO SO YOUNG. HE HAD SO MUCH LEFT IN THIS LIFE. I FIND IT VERY UNFAIR THAT THIS HAS HAPPENED. I CAN NOT IMAGINE WHAT HIS FAMILY IS GOING THROUGH. I THINK THE BLAMING NEEDS TO STOP THOUGH. I REMEMBER BEING THAT AGE, AND DOING WHAT IT TAKES TO "HAVE FUN" I FIND IT HARD TO BELIEVE THAT THE PARENTS JUST HANDED SEAN ALCOHOL AND SAID HAVE FUN. THE PARENTS MIGHT HAVE NOT BEEN HOME EVEN. WE CAN NOT JUDGE WHAT WE DO NOT KNOW. STOP THE ARGUING AND LET SEAN REST IN PEACE. HE WAS AMAZING AND WE ARE ALL GOING TO MISS HIM. ANGER AND BLAMING IS NOT GOING TO BRING SEAN BACK. WE CAN LEARN FROM HIS TRAGIC MISTAKE, BUT THERE IS NOT POINT IN POINTING THE FINGER AT ANYONE WHEN WE WERE NOT THERE. RIP SEAN WALKER JORDAN!
Comment Profile ImageSadder
Comment #28 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 8:56 am
Firstly, my sincere sympathies to Sean's family. I did not know him but it surely sounds like he had a plan in mind and was unfortunately plucked right up from further progress. I have a son who I am in constant concern about. Let me tell you - I have tried SO many things. Additionally - counseling and/or rehab will NOT work one bit if the child refuses to accept that there is a problem. "SAD" - I ask you, do you have a nondescript email you could share with me? Have a few questions.
Comment Profile Imageunknown
Comment #29 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 8:56 am
Ya ok "Sad". Put your money where your mouth is. You say that we can "drive by River Glen at three in the morning and see all these drunk kids"!! So what are YOU doing about it. Obviously you are seeing it and not doing anything about it. Bottom line - FRIENDS DON'T LET FRIENDS DRIVE DRUNK. Most graduates are living in their own apartments or in dorm rooms - you think they don't drink????? They are adults!!! Again - FRIENDS DON'T LET FRIENDS DRIVE DRUNK.. Period. For anyone to try to hold the parents who own the house where Sean was is just wrong. I did not know Sean or anyone involved, however I have raised 3 kids who probably drank as teenagers. I believe the most useful tool to a teenager is to never drive drunk and never let your friends drive drunk. PERIOD.
Comment Profile ImageMike Dorman
Comment #30 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 8:56 am
me and sean had our differences and at one point in our senior year i punched him in the face for something that happened in eighth grade but it still stuck in my throughout the years cuz i hated everybody during those years of my life. Now i look back and wonder why i couldn't have left our differences in the eighth grade where they belonged.

A DELAYED APOLOGY TO THE DECEASED:
I'm sorry sean rest in peace and god bless you.
Comment Profile Imagehmmm
Comment #31 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 8:57 am
I knew Sean personally and although he was a really nice guy, the individuals he hung around with were apart of a very bad crowd. It's a shame he died to young but from seeing their Facebooks and MySpaces, a majority of them were "going to have a beer for sean". Lesson learned huh, I think instead of all of you blaming the "parents who owned the house", you should take a long hard look at your own children. Are you really all that ignorant? I know if I knew your kids names, I would be able to tell you what kind of person they are and who they hang out with. I actually hung out with Sean for a while but I stopped hanging out w/ him because that just wasn't the crowd that I wanted to be around. It wasn't Sean but the people he surrounded himself with. Half of those kids have smoked themselves retarded, it's really disgusting. I can't believe I read a comment from a parent whose child was at the house and then went on to blame the parents who owned the house.

1. NO ONE FORCED YOUR CHILDREN TO TAKE THE BEER
2. NO ONE FORCED YOUR CHILDREN TO OPEN THE BEER
3. NO ONE FORCED YOUR CHILDREN TO CONSUME THE BEER.

Some of you are just unbelievable.
Comment Profile ImageRay
Comment #32 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 1:17 pm
To HMMM: Actually the parents can be legally responsible under California law. Since Sean died, they could be charged more severely. In California, it's against the law for anyone under the age of 21 to drink alcohol and parents who "knowingly" allow others under the age of 21 to drink alcohol in their home can and are usually charged. I am sure the Sean's parents will hire an attorney who will investigate this matter. I don't believe in the "peer pressure" or "wrong crowd" nonsense. If you don't like something or someone, just leave. Everyone has a "personal responsibility" for their actions, this time a young man died and that is a shame but he knew what he was doing, he took the risk and paid the ultimate price.
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Comment Profile ImageRay
Comment #33 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 1:17 pm
Seems everyone in town knows where these drinking gathering sites are located, the "pimp and hoe" parties, both parents and youths alike, why not the Sheriff?
Comment Profile Imagea friend
Comment #34 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 3:28 pm
to ruth: I am sorry if what I said came out as pointing blame that is not what i wanted to come of this. All I was trying to do is to point out that there are many factors that went into this but when it boils down to it, it was Sean's decision to drive and he would not want anyone to feel responsible or to point blame...I am truly sorry is my first comment came out wrong.

to sad: I would like you to note that all of Sean's friends are currently enrolled in college or a fire program and if you really knew who they were you wouldn't say that. I am not saying that they did not go to parties but I would like to ask you honestly if you think that is really abnormal for young adults that are not quite 21 to drink alcohol? I believe "unknown" said it properly friend don't let friends drive drunk. Also, I agree with "idiots" no one should try to say what Sean would or would not want ESPICALLY IF THEY DID NOT KNOW HIM PERSONALLY.

Besides our differences I believe we have a simular goal out of this and that is for everyone to learn a lesson so this does not happen again. Although our beliefs in how this should be accomplished vary, I respect your stance and your opinions.

I believe this should be a clear lesson to all people including adults to not drink and drive. Also, this forum should not be used to "bad mouth" anyone. (I apoligize again if my previous statement came out this way)

I love you Sean!!
Comment Profile ImageK S.
Comment #35 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 3:42 pm
I knew Sean very well he was a very loving person. and for everyone to be lashing out at each other just trying to deflect the blame from someone they are trying to protect is wrong. He wasn't always with the wrong crowd you could see him around with many different kids we graduated with and he was the same with everyone. So all you parents that are saying that he was a bad kid always drinking and always partying are wrong. he looked for fun in everything and if that involved drinking sometimes yea he was there but to keep lashing at each other blaming him, blaming someone else needs to stop..he's gone nothing can bring him back. I just think its unbelievable how people who were there cant come forward and tell more facts from the night. So quit lashing and people just tell the truth what they know
Comment Profile ImageHorrified & Concerned
Comment #36 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 6:04 pm
I truly hope that the family of Sean does not see these horrific comments concerning their son....and if you do I want to apolozise for the ugliness here. My heart goes out to you and yours in grieving the loss of your own flesh & blood. God Bless You.
Comment Profile Imagesad
Comment #37 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 6:04 pm
I read about this and thought maybe, just maybe it could be the cause? If his truck was a 2004, someone should tell his family that there was a recall on the suspension of that truck. It is on the front control arm, lower ball joint that would cause loss of steering control and crash.

That could be reaching for straws, but if this kid was as responsible as everyone says, maybe there is another cause for the crash.
Comment Profile ImageFrom My Heart......
Comment #38 | Tuesday, Dec 30, 2008 at 6:04 pm
Sean,
You walked away that afternoon, without a backward glance,
I didn't know that moment was going to be our last.
The last time I would hold you or see your face,
The last time I feel your strong embrace.

So solid and so real, so vibrant and alive,
A happy face with twinkling blue eyes, my fine young man, my child.
My only child, my Sean, the apple of my eye,
so cruelly taken from me, I never said goodbye.

The shattered remnant of my heart is strangely beating still,
with holes so black and fathomless no light could ever fill.
I don't know how I face each day without my Sean.
Gone is all the happiness, the love of life, the joy.

The years stretch on before me, so bleak and dark and long,
I pray you walk beside me, Sean, and help to keep me strong.
And when my life is over, come to me on that day,
and smile at me and hold me tight and carry me away.

the wind that whispers through the trees, the brightest star at night,
a rainbow on a dismal day, a shaft of golden light,
All these are signs you send to me, a message from above,
that even death can't break the bonds of Son and Mother Love...

Dawn ,
I am so very sorry for your pain.
If I could trade places with Sean that early morning I would in a heartbeat.
I can not imagine your pain I can only share your sorrow.
Amy Sean's Aunt
Comment Profile Imageglad they are grown
Comment #39 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 8:51 am
"there but for the Grace of God go I.."being a parent who must attend the funeral of a child must be horrific! My prayers go out to this young mans family. Stop blaming,people! It happened and unfortunately will continue to happen because in Fallbrook,like everyother town in America,there are parents who want to be"cool"instead of saying NO they say,"OK!"
Comment Profile ImageLexi Bernhardt
Comment #40 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 8:52 am
K.Adam's daughter had nothing to do with Sean leaving... absolutely nothing. She was asleep, and did not even know that Sean was there until the tragic morning we all found out. Her personal life is no one else’s business, and this should not be a site to slander her, or anyone else's name. The night of the accident, I however was present when Sean was at the house. Looking back I wish the night would have gone differently, but this was no ones fault. Being one of the last people to see Sean, I obviously have a lot of regret and I blame myself, but as everyone has told me, this is no ones fault; unfortunately it was God's will. That night, everyone was very drunk, Sean made a bad decision, but was an amazing person. All of this hostility needs to stop, this isn’t going to make anything easier, only create more pain. Always remember Sean for the bright, charming, funny, and driven person he was.

R.I.P man we love you so much
Comment Profile Imageto RAY
Comment #41 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 8:53 am
Is it known that the parents knowingly gave alcohol to the kids? Is it a fact or are all of you jus assuming that the parents knew about what was going on. All of the parents throwing the blame at each other are so clueless as to what is really going on. Believe me, I knew Sean a LOT better than most of you, there had to be more involved to his death. I really don't think he would be drunk, it was 4 A.M. I've actually come very close to falling asleep while I've been on the freeway very fatigued and I don't drink or anything. The 76 is also one of the most dangerous highways in CA, the slightest error could have been the cause of his death. I know that there are laws concerning parents and alcohol but how many times are parents out of town and the child/children throw a party. I just think people are coming to harsh conclusions and blaming people.
Comment Profile Imageso sorry
Comment #42 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 8:54 am
First of all, I am truly sorry for the loss of Sean. I have never met him, but he has touched the lives of many people and is well respected. I know that the world is at a loss without him.

For those of you who are upset about the concerns posted regarding underage drinking, please understand many of us have been there. I do not believe that the comments posted regarding concerns about the kids who are out drinking and driving, etc are a direct assault of Sean or anyone involved in the incident. The intentions, I believe, are far from that.

I can remember (back in the day) that I was at a friend's house from high school when I learned how to pour my first beer. My friend's parents were both there-and were professing recovering alcoholics, I might add. This was certainly not the only experience I had with adults condoning and/or supplying alcohol to me. By the time I was 14 I was a full-brown alcoholic and there was nothing my mother could have done to stop it. I went on to become addicted to meth and cocaine (not necessarily in that order). My life fell apart within months. I truely learned the hard way after loosing several friends to untimely deaths due to alcohol and drug abuse. Others ended up in prison.

I am more then thankful that I have not practiced this same behavior or condoned this behavior with my own children and their friends. And I have been much less then "popular" for this. For the parents out there who may think they are doing the right thing to let the kids stay at home and drink to avoid them being out on the streets, you are not doing the right thing. The memories and the experiences they will have while drunk will stay with them forever. And it is DANGEROUS. Kids need to know that there are parents and community members who will not sacrifice respect for the law and respect for authority in an effort to please their teens. It is not worth it to sacrifice their safety and well being. They need examples worthy to be followed.

My biggest fear was that my own child would have to experience addiction as I once had. My biggest fear came true and I responded with what many would call "touch love". I have my son back, and it did not get as bad as it would have had I not intervened. Many of his old friends are hooked on much worse substances then he was using.

If you are wondering what it is you can do to make a difference, at least do something. Call someone, ask about a program, PRAY, find out about what the laws are, and FOLLOW THEM!

Sean's death is a tragedy and nobody should be placing blame on anyone at this point. Please listen to the comments left with an open mind and try not to take things too personally. It is a beautiful world we live in. Sean is gone, I am so sorry, but there are others...
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Comment #43 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 8:54 am
Karen adams, how about you back off and deal with your anger over your daughter's behavior.. Quit trying to to start a rebellion.
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Comment #44 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 10:57 am
first a word to "love for sean" At least Karen Adams airs the truth!! Anger? It's sadness! Rebellion? Come on, you back off!
and to annonymous... Boy we have alot to say don't we? This was a tragedy and yes, it is very sad. This all could have been avoided. The CHP investigations will figure out what really went down. My thoughts and prayers are withe the parents of this young man. I can't imagine what this might feel like. Why not take responsiblity for our own actions. There is alot to be learned from this experience. Everyone needs to stop speculating!! D
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Comment #45 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 11:19 am
Sorry to say it is Seans fault and no one else is to BLAME! He chose to get falling down DRUNK and DRIVE.As a Fire explorer I am sure he has seen the senseless tragedy that could result from his actions. So hopefully everyone will learn from this.
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Comment #46 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 11:55 am
Everyone acts like someone pinned this person down and forced alchol down his throat. These are not children, they are young adults, who at some point do need to take responsibility for their actions. I guess its just easier to blame someone else.
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Comment #47 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 11:55 am
To Ray: Not assuming anything but I have seen too many of these incidents before and usually it's a party at someones home which the parents under California law are responsible. I am sure the CHP will do their investigation and charges will be filed. Also I am sure Sean's parents will have their attorney will do an investigation and the appropriate lawsuits will be filed.
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Comment #48 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 11:56 am
To Ray: I does not matter LEGALLY if the parents were out of town or visiting the planet zyclopse, the parents are responsible for the acts of their minor children. Ignorance of the law is not a LEGAL defense just as "the checks in the mail" is no excuse for not paying a bill. If a parent goes out of town and leaves their minor children home alone, there other options for supervision, a neighbor, family member or welfare checks by the Sheriff. If Sean was at someones home and consumed alcohol, the parents ARE responsible for his death. I also would love to see some "obstruction of justice" charges filed against the rest who claim to know nothing. A young man died here folks for no good reason and responsibilities need to be defined. If one of these spoiled "hillie" brats were to cause an accident with me because of underage drinking, god help them!
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Comment #49 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 1:08 pm
About five years ago, I gave training to stores that sold alcohol on how to identify underage purchasers, my comment was "card everyone". Even if the person came in with a walker and looked like moses, card him. In my experience, the clerks at these establishments barely speak English, care little about their jobs and could not count above twenty even if they used all their fingers and took off their shoes and socks. I usually got comments from the owners like one I did in town, let's call Habib who complained "I will lose business" I suggested that is one six pack worth losing your license for a month or longer. Now there are three establishments in Fallbrook and two in Bonsall where anyone who looks twenty one can purchase beer, wine and spirits without even being carded. Anyone who looks "buff" and looks twenty one can purchase without question, the youth know this and that is why they frequent these establishments because it's easy. Too many refuse to ak for ID on alcohol purchases and most never ask for ID when a credit card is used, I say CARD EVERYONE! I always present my ID when purchasing alcohol or using a credit card and I'm 50.
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Comment #50 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Please just stop. Let Sean Rest in Peace.
Let his Mom Dawn and Eric and Rob rest from all this ugliness.
Stop Please.
We the family need a little Peace right now.
Thank you for your understanding.
I'm sure if this happened to your family you would ask the same.
Step up and Stop.
Amy
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Comment #51 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 1:08 pm
1. It is impossible to keep your teenage daughter/son home every night. They will find a way to leave.
2. If underage drinking...or drinking and driving continues to be widely accepted by the young adults of this town (and some parents) then more tragedies will result.
3. It is a shame that sean's tragic death seems to be some kind of "lesson"...but in reality WE CAN ALL LEARN FROM THIS.

Most of the kids who go out to drink "nearly every night" (yes its true) in fallbrook/bonsall drive drunk. I have never witnessed anyone trying to stop them.
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Comment #52 | Wednesday, Dec 31, 2008 at 1:09 pm
this is "to ray"...being someone there that night i can tell you that alcohol was provided by the parent at the house, she was even drinking wine with us in the kitchen (THE POLICE DO KNOW THIS INFORMATION, BEING I WAS ONE OF THE FIRST PEOPLE TO SPEAK WITH THEM, AND I AS WELL AS MOST OF THE OTHER KIDS AT THE PARTY PROVIDED THEM WITH INFORMATION AS TO WHAT WENT ON THAT NIGHT)...so maybe YOU should get your facts straight...Sean WAS drunk, which was the reason for his accident, everyone started going to sleep when sean arrived around 2 a.m. and he was still up drinking in the kitchen. yes, he probably did fall asleep, but only becuase of how much alcohol he consumed that night...none of you know what happened that night, if you were not there, do not make assupmtions...
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Comment #53 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 9:52 am
All This nonsense is ridiculous. You guys sound like a bunch of kindergartens!! what a shame!! boys and girls its time to grow up.
Sean Rest in peace. My prayers are with your family!!!
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Comment #54 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 9:53 am
I have said it several times and I will say it again. If you want to pay your respects to Sean, go to his Obituary and do it there.
This forum is functioning EXACTLY the way it should. This is where everyone should talk this out and try to figure out what went wrong and make it better for the kids of our community.

No one in this area is being disrespectful to Sean, or his family. Quite the contrary; most of the people here are speaking out in concern. There are many young people who are courageously stepping forward to offer the truth about that night That truth helps each one of the parents who read this. That truth may be tough to read, but it will make a difference to all of us. I want to thank all of you kids who are posting here for helping me learn from your mistakes to be a better parent.

So, please.....out of respect for those of us who want to be better parents, please stop saying "Let Sean rest in peace." This discussion has nothing to do with that. We all feel terrible for his family, because as someone else said, "for the grace of God, there goes all of us". I want to learn what to do so that I recognize the warning signs in my children and so do the majority of the people posting here.

So stop saying we are pointing fingers, blaming, and being disrespectful because you are dead wrong. The only person who that happened to is Mrs. Adams and sadly to say she found out in a very hard way about her daughter's reputation and behavior. I am saddened for her that she had to find out in such a public forum, but also relieved for her that she is now aware. This knowledge will help to protect her cherished daughters.

But as I said please.....go to his obituary and do the right thing. Tell his family how much you loved him. It would probably help also if you would stop reading these posts between caring parents and the courageous kids who are speaking out. They are heroes in my book for having the guts to do that, in spite of the trouble it might get them into. If they were all truly that drunk, then they must be living in a personal hell of regret right now.
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Comment #55 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 9:53 am
This is not the place to argue about under-age drinking. Lets remember Sean for the great young man he was.
I think its disgracefull that adults would write such horrible articles less than a week after Sean's untimely death.

Forever Remembered
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Comment #56 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 9:53 am
"Is it known that the parents knowingly gave alcohol to the kids? Is it a fact or are all of you just assuming that the parents knew about what was going on."

It's a question not a statement. I hope you enjoy living the rest of your life knowing that you may have prevented seans death if you had been responsible and not let him drive.
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Comment #57 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 9:53 am
im 38 and just recently lost my son may 17th. he was 19. his name was J.C. he was at a friends house and all the autopsy report reveailed was he died of a tragic death. i have no answers and if i did maybe life would be a little easier. im not sure why im even commenting, im just a mother in pain who lost her only son.
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Comment #58 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 9:53 am
Instead of all of you complaining about your own children, why don't you try to propose something to the community and actually TAKE ACTION! I graduated with Sean and I now attend a university in a large city where no one even needs to drive a car! Two words: PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION. Wow, who would have ever thought? Fallbrook has become a big enough to where public transportation should always be available to anyone. So instead of you wasting your words complaining about the situation, take action and propose something to the community! The only way to truly avoid drunk driving is not having to drive at all.
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Comment #59 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 9:53 am
Sean was an amazing person! I feel very blessed to have known him. He made a great impact on my life. Sean was loved by all everyone who had the chance to know him. Sean will always have a place in my heart. My prayers are with the family. The family raised an incredible son. They should be very proud to know that their son made such a great impact on everyone he knew. R.I.P. Sean i love and miss you.
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Comment #60 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 9:55 am
Hello, I knew Sean personally and had many a great times with him. He had a great sense of humor, one that made you laugh until you cried. So many good memories I had with him. But besides all the good times at school and sports, there is one that sticks out vividly. A couple years ago, he expressed interest in church. So I proceeded to invite him and he accepted the invitation. I did not know much of Sean’s religious background. As we ventured to church, I knew I needed to speak to him about where he would spend eternity. The thought came to my mind, “What if he died in a car accident and I never gave him the Gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ.” I had to witness to him about Jesus Christ. We eventually came to church and after the service my pastor accosted him with a question, “Sean, are you saved?” Sean seemed puzzled over the question and said, “No, I don’t know what it is to be saved.” My pastor proceeded to look at me and say, “He will show you.” So later that night I showed him from the Bible how Jesus died for his sins, was buried and resurrected from the grave and that Jesus Christ is the only way to heaven. After our talk, I gave him a tract with the plan of salvation on it. He later told me that he received the Lord Jesus Christ as his Saviour. When I heard of his death, it shocked me and I instantly thought of that time. I praise God for that testimony of his salvation. Yes, it was a tragic death. Yes, it could have been avoided. But my friend praise God he was born again and is in heaven right now. I am thankful for that! As my pastor asked him that question, so ask I you, “friend, are you saved? If you were to die today, are you 100% sure you would go to heaven.”
That day at the funeral, I saw many of my high school friends. They were very shaken up. So many times, we flippantly avoid the thought of eternity. But not until the death of a loved one do we truly think about these things. You need to take serious thought of your eternal destination. This life is but a vapor and soon will be over, but eternity is forever. The Bible says, “And as it is appointed unto man once to die, but after this the judgment.” (Heb. 9:27) You will die one day and will face God and He will judge you. “So then every one of us shall give account of himself before God.” (Ro. 14:22)
“For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.” (Ro. 3:23) Every person has offend a holy and righteous God by there sin. Lying, cheating, stealing, blaspheme, adultery, lust, idolatry, hatred, murder…, just think of the 10 commandments, if you broken one you sinned against God. Sin brings forth death.
“For the wages of sin is death…” (Ro. 6:23). The proof of your sin will be your death. Are you going to die one day? Yes? Then you have sinned against God. Don’t justify yourself, there is no good person. “There is none that doeth good, no not one.” (Ro. 3:12) Sin demands a punishment and the sentence is in hell for eternity. “The wicked shall be turned into hell…” (Psalms 9:17) “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” But God has provided your payment for sin and way of salvation.

“But God commendeth his love towards us, in that, while we were yet sinners Christ died for us” (Ro. 5:8). God sent forth his Son Jesus Christ to live a sinless life and die on a cross for you sins. “For he[God] hath made him[Jesus] to be sin for us who knew no sin that we might be made the righteousness of God in him.” (II Cor. 5:21). “…but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Ro. 6:23) Forgiveness of sins is by Jesus Christ and only through the Lord. Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins, was buried and rose again from the dead. HE IS ALIVE!

Jesus Christ said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life no man cometh unto the Father but by me.” (John 14:6). No other way my friend, your church won’t get you to heaven, your baptism won’t get you to heaven, your good works won’t get you to heaven, your religion won’t get you to heaven, only Jesus Christ can get you there.

God has made it simple, “…it is repentance toward God, and faith toward our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Acts 20:21) Repentance is a change of heart, its turning from sin to Jesus Christ. Realizing you’re a sinner in the sight of God and then trusting Jesus Christ to save you. God said, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth and believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, THOU SHALT BE SAVED.” (Ro. 10:9) That is a promise! Jesus Christ, God manifest in the flesh, rose from the dead, no one else has every accomplished that. You must believe in your heart. God said, “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the LORD shall be saved.” (Ro. 10:13).

Friend, please give this consideration. There is nothing, nothing more important then where you spend eternity. Who won the Super Bowl 14 years ago? Who really cares? Consider something that matters in eternity?

Yes, alcohol is wicked. Yes, it is deadly. Yes, are young people need to stop this irresponsible act. But no reform, no program will do. Jesus Christ is the only Person that can make a difference. Please think on these truths!

“For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?” So you gain all the riches in the world, you experience all the temporary satisfaction this world can offer, but then die one day and go to hell. Your soul is too important for you to lose.

Consider this.


http://biblebelievers.com/the-reason-why.html
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Comment #61 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 10:46 am
You are absolutly right. Parents that is one way you may be able to get your kids to stop drinking. Get them involved in a church and pray for them everyday.
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Comment #62 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 2:21 pm
I am amazed at some of these comments and of the parents. You are so lost on raising you children that you truly think that sending them to church will "save them" and keep them from harm. I personally don't believe that. I am not a religious person and who taught me to not drink and drive is MY PARENTS! Not God, not school, not friends. MY PARENTS! who are supposed to be the ones to do that. Sean's parents were great people and raised him amazingly, it is sad that he made a bad choice, but everyone makes bad choices everyday he just happened to have to pay the ultimate price. Some of the people who are seen at parties on a regular basis are the people who are also seen at church on a regular basis. Church, Jesus, and God don't save people. People do, Parents do. So to Amen, God doesn't save your children you do.
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Comment #63 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 3:07 pm
If it is really true that the parent involved was drinking wine in the kitchen with these kids......then that parent needs to be prosecuted fo the fullest extent of the law.

Sadly to say, there are still going to be parties, still going to be underage drinking, and still going to be young drunk drivers. Too many of these kids have friends, family, and parents who will buy them alcohol. Too many will still raid their parents cabinets and get alcohol any way they can. These kids need to start protecting each other and really need to take away their friends keys if someone has been drinking and wants to drive..

How about in the future, the parents (or party-giver) start taking the keys of all party attendees as they arrive and only giving them back after Breathalyzer tests are done. You can buy a cheap Breathalyzer at Bev Mo. Who cares if it makes you look like a crazy, controlling parent or friend? Isn't that better than serving jail time for allowing it in your home? Take some responsibility for your kids and their friends and quit trying to be so cool.

I hope the high school allows John Buchanan (North County Fire District) to come back to the high school with the "Every 15 Minutes Program". Who knows why the high school stopped allowing that program to be held. It should happen at least once per year! It is CRITICAL that we get it back into the school and make it mandatory for each and every high school student (not just the Prom age kids).

As a community, we need to do everything we can to prevent this from happening again. Let's start a "no questions asked" ride home program that licensed drivers can call to get a ride home when they don't want to drive their car because of drinking/getting stoned. The driver would only need to show proof of a vehicle and surrender their keys in order to get a free ride home.

Is their a SADD (Students Against Drunk Drivers) chapter at Fallbrook High? If so, can they start a "ride home/key surrender" program? If not, perhaps some of Sean's friends should start a chapter to honor him. Have it cover the ages 16 to 20 years old.
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Comment #64 | Friday, Jan 2, 2009 at 3:51 pm
To Sad: Finally something constructive coming out of all this talk. Lessons are definately needed to be learned here. Unfortunately it seems something tragic needs to happen before people wake up and recognize there is a problem. Fallbrook can be the exception if we put effort into it. I think a program in Seans name would be wonderful. If one life is saved, one decision made not to drive drunk because of what happened to Sean, his death will not be in vain.
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Comment #65 | Saturday, Jan 3, 2009 at 9:45 am
The reason why the "Every 15 Minutes Program" stopped at the high school was because a large number of parents were complaining that it was too much for their kids to handle. Too upsetting. I know this because I work with many of the CHP officers. They would really like to restart that program to help our kids. It isn't just the drinking and driving, but the speeding, and not wearing seat belts!!The roads in Fallbrook are beautiful,but very dangerous! To all please be careful.
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Comment #66 | Saturday, Jan 3, 2009 at 9:45 am
we miss j.c. too.

Sue and Curtis
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Comment #67 | Sunday, Jan 4, 2009 at 12:28 pm
we miss j.c. too. love you. kristen ,simon, and jack
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Comment #68 | Sunday, Jan 4, 2009 at 12:29 pm
"Frustrated Mom"....Gosh, that is so shortsighted of those parents. "Every 15 Minutes" may be upsetting to the kids, but that is part of the lesson learned. Those parents are selling their kids way short. High School/college kids are not babies. They need to be taught about the responsibilities that come with growing up as young adults. Their parents need to understand that the lessons learned from "Every 15 Minutes" will follow their kids for a lifetime.

You are right, it is not just drinking/driving, it is also about seat belts, and speeding. Those two problems are much more prevalent than drinking/driving. As most of the community knows, we had a football player critically injured because of his speeding and not wearing a seat belt. He is a remarkable young man and would be a good speaker at this program (ONLY if he is ready for that). His injuries are a very good example to all the kids and might remind them again of how quickly this type of thing happens when they are not driving carefully.

Can every person (parents and students) on this website call 723-6300, on Monday morning and key in the extension for the Asst. Principal, or Principals office and tell them to bring the program back on an ANNUAL basis. They need to know how much we value their involvement, the Fire District, and the CHP and we want "Every 15 Minutes" back! If you don't reach anyone, then leave a message PLEASE! For the sake of our loved ones, lets all take action.
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Comment #69 | Monday, Jan 5, 2009 at 9:25 am
As far as I know, the school plans on bringing back the "Every 15 Minutes Program" this year. Students, including myself, were given the option of submitting an application to participate in the program.
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Comment #70 | Monday, Jan 5, 2009 at 1:55 pm
To the mom who consumed and/or provided alcohol to the minors in "your" house. How cool or liked do you think you be, had the medical examiner left seans mangled, bloody body on your doorstep with instructions on how to contact his parents.
Thought so......
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Comment #71 | Wednesday, Jan 7, 2009 at 9:50 am
wow, i realize the parent does have to share some of the blame for providing the alcohol but you act like they tied him down and forced a funnel into his mouth full of alcohol...
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Comment #72 | Wednesday, Jan 7, 2009 at 3:08 pm
to hmm, you are right, they did not tie Sean down and give him the alcohol. However, that parent, (if they were in fact DRINKING WINE, in the kitchen with him), should have tied him down and not let him drive. I hold the parent 100% responsible for that part of the night. The parent should have taken Sean's keys and followed him around until they were sure Sean could not leave.

But oh....I forgot, they were allegedly drinking wine with all the other minors in the kitchen trying to be cool.
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Comment #73 | Wednesday, Jan 7, 2009 at 5:25 pm
Enough already of all of the self-righteous, opinionated people, mouthing off and too ashamed to sign their full name. No one has the right to judge Sean, his friends, or his friend's parents. That will be up to our Lord. It's a terrible shame someone didn't call his mother that night, I'm sure she would have raced out on bare-feet to save her child. But no one did. We all should learn from this, stop trying to find fault, and try to be the best friend, son, daughter or parent we can be. It's all that really matters in life. And please don't ask me to "write something nice in the obituary, this forum is for debate",
I have written to Sean's mother. And I signed my full name there also.
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Comment #74 | Thursday, Jan 8, 2009 at 9:56 am
Dear Ms. Rhyne..... you must have known this young man and therefore all of these comments are harder for you to read. It is difficult to distance yourself from a logical discussion when there is emotional involvement. I am sorry you have also experienced this tragedy with his family. The pain must be very deep.

I do not think anyone is being self-righteous or disrespecting Sean, or his family. Clearly, we are all feeling such empathy for his mom and dad. However, the family who held the party put themselves out there for these types of discussions.

We teach our kids about accepting the consequences of poor decision making and that applies to adults as well. If the allegations about that family are true, I can only imagine they are feeling guilt-ridden, and very frightened by the consequences of breaking the law in that way. I have spoken to many parents about this and I haven't run across anyone who isn't feeling disbelief that a parent would ever condone or allow underage drinking in their home. I pray for them, I pray those allegations are incorrect and they truly did not drink in the kitchen or allow any teenagers to drink either.

I applaud your thoughtfulness and sensitivity in contacting Sean's mother. It is so important that you wrote a note to her. I am sure she will be grateful for your support during this tragic time. There is no pain greater than losing a child and I do not know how she will cope. I think all of us would give anything to turn back the hands of time for her.

As for the issue of "And I signed my full name there also"....I am certain as a friend of the family that was important to you and I think you made a good decision in your circumstance.
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Comment #75 | Thursday, Jan 8, 2009 at 9:57 am
ATTENTION PARENTS... stop trying to point the finger at someone for the loss of our friend. What are you going to solve??? this aint CSI. u wanna make a differance? join madd. ***24/7 420*** I miss you Sean
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Comment #76 | Thursday, Jan 8, 2009 at 1:54 pm
Stealth, your "comment" of ***24/7 420*** ????? What kind of a moron are you? Your friend just died from drinking and you are promoting smoking bud??? You, my friend are an idiot.
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Comment #77 | Monday, Jan 12, 2009 at 9:07 am
To Mary Anne and Sean's mom: I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful sons. May the peace of God that passes all understanding be with you. You both are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you.
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Comment #78 | Monday, Jan 26, 2009 at 9:58 am
Sean is missed, every single day. He was his own man. RIP SWJ.
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Comment #79 | Monday, Feb 2, 2009 at 9:58 am
To everyone who is using this to the advantage of getting their angered point across, or lashing out on each other; shame on you.

To use someone's death, especially someone as amazing as Sean, as an opportunity to point blame or argue with the irrelevant fact that your children partied or didn't party with him is morally wrong and selfish. Or even to you who are saying someone should have done something. True; a grain of rice can tip the scale, but that's not the purpose of all of this.

Why can't you take his death as an opportunity to remember or find out how great he was? Nothing more, nothing less. Stop being an ambulance chaser and put your judgmental noses up your own business and reassemble your morals.

Remember him, not yourselves.



And thank you Natalie Rhyne. You are one of few who understand.
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Comment #80 | Monday, Feb 9, 2009 at 11:54 am
********* we shoudn't** be putting him down
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Comment #81 | Monday, Feb 9, 2009 at 11:54 am
This is a great tragedy and having people arguing back and forth trying to bring blame to someone else is wrong. Yes people made mistakes that night and yes Sean made the greatest of them all but we should be putting him down saying what an awful person he was always drinking and partying lets remember Sean for who he was a loving caring individual. We shouldn't be arguing over this we should be trying to come together and put all the facts together and figure out what happens. Yes there are plenty of people that haven't come forth that really need to. It would be so much easier for family and friends such as myself if someone could just come forth and stats hard facts that they know of from that night
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Comment #82 | Monday, Apr 20, 2009 at 7:44 pm
I would like to know the same thing. I would like to know where he got the one litre bottle of Captain Morgan's rum that they found in the cab of the truck. Too bad they couldn't lift the fingerprints to figure out who bought it for him.

This was such a tragedy, such a nice kid. He will be missed.
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Comment #83 | Tuesday, Jun 9, 2009 at 11:12 am
He was an adult and responsible for his own actions. End of story.
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Comment #84 | Saturday, Jun 20, 2009 at 8:38 pm
As a 20+ year paramedic who used to fly for the regional EMS helicopter, I thank Fallbrook parents for all of the business they have provided us in the fire and EMS service. If punk kids don't honor their bodies, and clueless parents either allow that behavior or support them by providing them access to liquor, more power to them and their inevetible outcomes. I hope they all sign their donor cards so that others can live because of their stupid behavior. If I, or my loved ones, were in the vehicle that was hit by this punk, I'd sue everyone I could. This kid does NOT represent the fire service in any way, shape, or form. I'm disgraced by his actions and am ashamed he's on North County Fire protection District's web site. All this is doing is glorifying drunk driving.
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Comment #85 | Tuesday, Jun 23, 2009 at 9:59 am
Wow you are low to put down someone as great as sean was yea he's a teenager yea he made a mistake that took his own life but did not to any others you are a disgrace for putting down someone that you didnt know you have no right calling him names. Teens do that; he was celebrating his success at becoming an EMT and things got the best of it
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Comment #86 | Thursday, Jun 25, 2009 at 3:15 pm
miss you buddy!
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Comment #87 | Sunday, Jul 19, 2009 at 12:10 am
LOOK AROUND PEOPLE!!! The teens all know someone who work at the liquor store, grocery store, longs, cvs, rite aid --- they are not carded they get it from each other. HAVE GUTS and call the COPS on your own kids ---- you blame others look in the freaking mirror.
Comment Profile ImageFrom thoughs who loved you
Comment #88 | Tuesday, Aug 18, 2009 at 10:18 am
We all miss you!
And you will always have a place in our hearts!

Love you.

RIP Sean Walker "Chaps" Jordan
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Comment #89 | Monday, Sep 21, 2009 at 12:43 pm
How dare you insult someone who is not here to defend himself. Yes, he made a very bad choice and it cost him is life. How are you disgraced that he is on the NCF website? It doesn't say how he died, let him rest in peace. I am 100% against drunk driving, and this is why. No one is trying to glorify it, but a young man lost his life.
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Comment #90 | Tuesday, Oct 13, 2009 at 9:47 am
To whom place judgment:
I grew up in Fallbrook and have first hand experience of the quick and convenient way of getting alcohol. You should all learn from history...teaching absence didn't prevent teens from having sex...teaching kids to not drink doesn't have any effect either. Teens are the ultimate manipulators and if you think you have them figured out you couldn't be anymore wrong. I am now 21 years old and have not once picked up a drink and gotten in my car for one simple reason- my mother. Instead of telling me to NEVER drink she explained to me that I was young and probably going to experiment and if that day came and I "experimented" with my friends, to call her. She wouldn't pass judgment...she would simply come pick me up and get me safely home. I cannot tell you parents how many of my friends were children like yours with parents like you, who found themselves constantly in lies. Unlike those parents who believe their children to be "sleeping over at jenny's" my mother always knew where I was, who I was with and exactly what I was doing. And for the many people I've watched get DUI's....its because they have parents like you who weren't understanding, who just placed judgment. My mother never condoned underage drinking but she refused to be ignorant. They're is a fine line between enabling... it takes a gifted parent to find that line and do what my mother did for me. Unfortunately for the disrespectful parents on this blog, you cannot find that line and there for could possibly fail at your parental responsibilities. I also find it disgusting. pathetic, and sad that 30,40,50+ aged adults are taking to a blog to "talk smack". Please leave that to your teenagers and be the Example, our world can never change for the better if people continue to be petty.

Sean Jordan, my thoughts and prayers are with you, however I never knew you.

God is the only one that can judge...and NONE of you are God. May this young man rest in peace with the the Lord.

Please let him rest in PEACE.
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Comment #91 | Tuesday, Dec 29, 2009 at 12:59 pm
Every parent has a right to be p****d off at any other parent that is supplying their kid alcohol. And how are you supposed to control what your 18 or 19 year old does? They are an adult, so you can't lock them up and keep them in. But if other parents don't supply alcohol it certainly helps. I think We should tell our kids we don't want them to drink but if they go somewhere and do it to call us and we'll pick them up. It's unacceptable to get in a car and drive or drive with someone eles who has been drinking. I am so sorry to hear about this young man's death, I have a 19 year old also.
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Comment #92 | Tuesday, Jan 26, 2010 at 8:20 am
I knew Sean. He didn't deserve this. .. dying, or otherwise "trash talk and arguing" on this site.

While going to FHS, we all knew at least one person who died in an auto accident every year IN fallbrook, whether it was off 76, or reche, Gird, Live Oak, or Mission. Whether it was DUI related or not- we can help prevent this.

Sean wasnt the first to die from this horrible cause. But in his memory we can help change Fallbrook and around our nation. This was a very sad loss.
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Comment #93 | Thursday, Feb 11, 2010 at 2:55 pm
'Jenkins said Jordan was not wearing a seatbelt at the time of the accident. '
stupid kid drunk, no seatbelt. let me be blunt: you play stupid, you play with death, end of story. nature by running her usual course removed another idiot from the gene pool. if you wanna live, get smart. wanna die, get dumb. your choice.
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Comment #94 | Thursday, Feb 11, 2010 at 2:55 pm
'As a 20+ year paramedic who used to fly for the regional EMS helicopter, I thank Fallbrook parents for all of the business they have provided us in the fire and EMS service. If punk kids don't honor their bodies, and clueless parents either allow that behavior or support them by providing them access to liquor, more power to them and their inevetible outcomes. I hope they all sign their donor cards so that others can live because of their stupid behavior. If I, or my loved ones, were in the vehicle that was hit by this punk, I'd sue everyone I could. This kid does NOT represent the fire service in any way, shape, or form. I'm disgraced by his actions and am ashamed he's on North County Fire protection District's web site. All this is doing is glorifying drunk driving.'
well said.
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Comment #95 | Friday, Mar 5, 2010 at 2:44 pm
RiP SEAN.
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Comment #96 | Tuesday, Mar 9, 2010 at 10:02 pm
I didn't know sean at all, but it seems as though everybody loved him and he was a good kid, who unfortunately made the wrong choice. However, I grew up and in Fallbrook living the party lifestyle as a high school student in the boring town of Fallbrook. My cousin was killed not too long ago in a drunk driving accident. He was the driver and killed and three others that were in the passengers seats. He was an awesome kids, and I've never seen so many people at a funeral ever to because people that didn't even know him loved him for his kindness he projected upon his friends, family, acquaintances, and even strangers, he didn't even know (not even close to a punk at all). My Aunt and Uncle were and still are good parents, and they were and still are actively involved in my cousins life along with his siblings. They spoke with their kids about thier whereabouts all the time. Unfortunately, he was at a party where alcohol was available and he left under the influence. They were extremely upset and felt tremendous amounts of guilt for the deaths of the other boys and the pain caused to their families. However, not once, did the parents of the other boys put blame my Aunt and Uncle, or did my Aunt and Uncle put blame on the kids house that the alcohol was being served at. They all were tremendously upset and knew that every parent involved was going through the same pain of a loss of a child, which is entirely incomprehensible, if it has never happened to you. They all realized that you can do you best to monitor you kids, teach them morals and value, and be involved with their lives, but the rest is up to the choices their children.

Parents believe controlling their kids lives by monitoring their phones, email, myspace, facebook, installing software on their computers, controlling who they hang out with, and keeping their kids locked up, will solve the problems of their kids going out and drinking. IT WONT! For the most part, your kids are going to do what they feel like regardless. If they don't do it now, they will in college and the outcome could be worse because they will go crazy on drugs, sex, and alcohol due to their parents controlling their whole adolescence. Parents also love putting the blame on other kids and other parents because they don't have to take a look at their own kids (in which they'd probably be denial if they did anyways). They tend to project their anger and frustation on others, so they don't have to deal with the emotions of what is really going on with their own kids lives. Especially, in a small town like Fallbrook where gossiping, something similar to this forurm where the parents actively involved in putting their two sense in, is all the parents have to do with thier lives and where all the kids have to do is smoke weed and drink because there is no other recreational activities provided in Smallbrook.

If you really want to keep your kids from drinking as much, you needs to talk to the local politicians and business owners in Fallbrook about giving the kids more recreational activities to take part in at night. And, you need to talk to your kids and advise them not control them because ultimately the choice is up to them whether you want to believe it or not.

And to the 20 year old above Robert, you were obviously a kid that didn't have many friends, was not popular, and was never subjected to peer pressure. It is easy for somebody like you to sit back and call others stupid and clueless because you didn't have similar experiences. What disgusts me more than anything is there are people like you in this world that will call a young kid who made a huge mistake in his life a "punk" even after he has passed away and talk about how you are ashamed he was on the North County Fire Protection website. They should be ashamed to have you as a Paramedic and part of their team. I really hope you never arrive at my accident scene or anybody else I know, if you show the same compassion towards your rescuees and you do people in general. I would never wish a death upon anybody, but, with that being said if I were to, I would wish something tragic like losing the life of one of your loved ones could happen to you. So you could "really" experience a tragic event similar to the parents and kids involved in drunk driving accidents. This way we wouldn't have to hear you talk out of your ... about suing everybody, and it would shut your ... up, once you've really had to feel what others have been subjected to.

To all you Fallbrook Parents Gossipers: I thank God everyday I'm out of Fallbrook, and I would never want to raise my kids there simply due to the fact that my kids would have to grow up being subjected to same Fallbrook Gossipers that I was subjected growing. Looks like nothing has changed, but I never really expected it to.

Luke 6:37 “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;

Proverbs 26:22
The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts.

The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.


My hearts go out to Sean's parents and to the kids parents who had the party, and I hope they find a way to cope with this tragic event.

To everybody else, which is not on here to pay tribute to Sean, learn to keep your thoughts to yourself.
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Comment #97 | Saturday, Nov 13, 2010 at 2:30 am
sean i miss you there isnt a day that goes by that i dont think about you. your life was short but you touched so many people in so many ways. love you bro
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Comment #98 | Saturday, Jan 22, 2011 at 1:26 pm
Now that I'm older I look back on our actions of that fateful night, I see it from a more mature perspective. We were all just teenagers (I was only 18) and too immature to turn down the drinks that our 'rents put into our hands (supposedly thinking it was better to party at home then driving around somewhere while drinking). It was the IRRESPONSIBLE action of a failing parent unable to keep her own very wild daughter from going out to party on a nightly basis. She doesn't even know half the stuff her daughter did back then (man, could we tell stories). If young people can't be controlled then it's the parents fault. That's why we are "minors". Even though the parent was there that night, I hope you weigh your future actions carefully from this point forward and stop blaming others when you are equally at fault for my buddy's death.

| R.I.P. |

Sean, love ya, man

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